This past Sunday I got to celebrate my very first Mother’s Day as a Mom. All I could think was that it was so hard to believe that it has almost been a year since I’ve given birth to Eliora. Where did the time go? I no longer have a little baby girl. I have an almost walking, constantly eating, endlessly crawling, forever smiling daughter who has brought so much joy into my life. This phase of life has been such a huge adventure & I have learned so much as a new mother. Each day brings new lessons within motherhood, but here are a couple of thoughts that stuck with me.
Being a teacher & the second oldest of 5 children, I thought I knew all I needed to know about patience. But I was dead wrong. Being a teacher & a sibling you are able to experience life with little children on day to day basis. Yet you do not fully comprehend the responsibility that goes into truly caring for a child 24/7. My patience has grown immensely as I have experienced motherhood. Between sleepless nights, explosive diapers & food being spit up, babies test you patience each and everyday. Although things may seem overwhelming or exhausting, there are heart filled moments that completely overshadow everything else. I have learned to be patient and how to display that while interacting and playing with Eliora. It has allowed me to be more forgiving with her as well as with others within my life.
2. Be Present.
The first year flies by. In all the things that I have experienced in my life, the first year of motherhood has been the fastest year ever. You start off with this itty bitty baby & then all of a sudden, they aren’t so itty bitty. They’re sitting up or rolling or smiling or laughing or whatever miraculous thing they accomplish. So many things happen in such a short period of time. Because of this, you may want to have your camera out at every moment. That is okay. But in the excitement to capture the shot of your child’s first smile or first roll, don’t forget to be present. It is okay if you didn’t get a good pic of your child standing for the first time, as long as you were there to watch it happen and to cheer your child on.
3. Husband Time.
It is so easy to get caught up in motherhood & lose your identity in the importance of raising a child. The love you have for your child is unreal & the moment you hold that little one in your arms, you feel so much joy. But don’t forget the one who helped make the beautiful gift a reality. Your husband. I have had days that I get so caught up in being Ellie’s mom, that I push my husband to the back burner. It can be little things. Not kissing him good morning. Not cooking meals. Not making time for just the two of us. It is hard to balance it all, but it is not impossible. So love on your husband. Make time for him. Even if that means cuddling on the couch after the little one is asleep. Just find a way to let him know that you still care about time together.
4. Love Yourself.
Pregnancy is one of life’s miracles. A woman’s body experiences so much change before, during and after pregnancy. After having Ellie, I experienced a lot of negative thoughts about my appearance. It is so hard to go from carrying a baby & gaining so much weight to having a baby & still maintaining that weight. So I was extremely self conscious. Yet, through reminders from my husband & family, I knew that I was still me. The same woman who was loved & cherished. I just needed to love myself through it all. I needed to be patient as well as give myself some “me” time. Giving yourself time to do things you love is a great way to be happy after all the life changes. Find time to refuel yourself in anyway that you need to. Just keep loving yourself.
Motherhood has been an extraordinary journey. I feel so honored & blessed to be Eliora’s momma. I am so eager to see what else lies ahead & what I will learn within the next year of being a mother.